The truth is you will always have time for busy. Do whatever you want to take care of you.
There will always be times in life when you have a lot of things going on. Especially if you are a woman that wants a huge life. There will always be emergencies where things will and can always go wrong or don’t work out. I can guarantee that. There will be deadlines at work, and you period has not come, and you have a medical emergency, you feel guilty about what you did last night, last week and last year. The world, hell the Universe will be screaming for your attention. I am getting sick just writing this list. These are 13 ways to Live Life Your Way and live by your own design.
No is what you say to anything that is not important to you.
Laundry is not important to me. Clean clothes is what important you don’t have to do it, you can give it to someone else to do it. People who do not stand for me and who want to make me feel bad about myself you know the people that want something and guilt you into it. Your mother, boyfriend, friends even the mailman. You know it’s bad if the mailman can guilt you into stuff. Things that are not important to you and not necessary to you. Say No, Good way to handle that is to say I prefer and to do that.
Asking for Help
Asking for help is really important. A lot of people would rather sit in their misery than ask for help are you one of these people. Don’t be afraid to ask for help and when you do ask for make sure that you use it. Don’t waste people’s time talking about help and then not using it. Most people want to help want to revel in seeing you successful and happy. People when helping it makes them feel useful, important and important. You can ask for anything you want anything. Know when asking People they have to right to say yes or no. People are grown and responsible for the choices they make it is not you position to choose for them. Just don’t underestimate people and try to take negative advantage of them.
Stay on contact
It is important to stay in contact with your friends. No matter the length of time that you have know the person. People like to be acknowledged and to feel like they are friends. There are 6+ billion people on the planet and if you do not feel like you have no friends, no one loves you then you know what you are not being a good friend. You might be expressing love and sharing love. Love is addictive. Giving love and expressing love is a good feeling. Try it. Send a message, send a text letting people know that you are thinking of them makes a world of difference in another life. It does not have to be a two lunch it could be a 5 min checking in just to see how they are doing. Try this on for size, send out I was thinking out you messages to your friends and people that you want to be friends with and see what comes back. No it is not weird. I am doing 5 right now. Stop what you doing and just do it. The 1st five people in your phone to start. I’m back, just sent out 8 instead of five. Got 3 responses already in 8 mins. Generally if they are in your phone most are friends. You don’t have to keep in contact with everyone, most will be okay about it. However, keep in touch with people are best as YOU can it will keep you happy and keep you inspired around life, making friends and being inspired.
Surround yourself with things that you like.
Surround yourself with only the things that you enjoy or like. Do not buy or bring into your emotional space things that you do not enjoy or like as they was pull emotional energy from you. When you in a dumpy mood or low energy having things around you that you enjoy that you can focus on will and can cheer you up and bring up your energetic level. Pinterest is an awesome app as you can put it on your computer your phone and you can get little boost of inspiration.
Gratitude List
I usually provide this as a tool to my clients, at first they find it difficult as in another thing in life to do then they do the gratitude list as chore then they. When you are being grateful about what you have in your life. You do not have time to whine about the things you don’t have. Gratitude provides you with a tool to protect yourself against negative influences whether you are making, or the result of the activities of negative people around you. Recognize that you have to power, and put it into constant use until you have created for yourself a wall of immunity against negative influences in your own mind. Our negative thoughts and influences usually work on you through you subconscious mind and are often difficult to detect. So having a daily gratitude list, even creating one where you share back and forth with friends of like mind will empower you creating dialog instead of monolog where the negative thoughts do not have a chance to pollute you mind. Gratitude has power to move you forward. Keep a journal for your gratitudes where you can go back whenever you need a little boost.
Keep a Planner for your life, and your fun times
Keeping a planner makes you life less crazy. It is good practice to put all the things that are important to you also adding things that are fun. Many people put in doctors appointment, work things, children but they don’t really schedule time for fun. Get in the practice of adding into your planner time for fun. It is a really exciting thing to look in your planner and see that you have schedule time for vacation, but it is also great to see inside of your day that you have scheduled time for fun things with friends or on your own. When you keep a planner is it important to schedule everything so you don’t have any shocks surprises and missed meetings. Once you have got that the difficult part will be to learn to use the planner in a way that is effective and does not make you regret the appointments that you have made. Balance things, and give your self the right to say no thank you to an appointment.
Keep track of your wins
Write down you wins. Weekly wins are important so that you can have a real record of your wins and your achievements. I got a write up in an online magazine http://www.t2conline.com/a-call-for-coaching that’s a big win if I don’t write that down. I will never remember. Make a habit of writing down your wins and achievement’s write down you milestones they will help you when you feel that you have hit a wall in your personal achievements’ at the end of the day you can check in.
Your appearance: Make sure you like you
Also make sure that you like what you wearing and that you have your own personal style and that you look the way you want. That your style is yours. You don’t have to have the latest blah blah, but it is good to have your own look that unique to you. With regard to your clothes take on your body, do you feel good about your body, are you a little overweight or a lot overweight, but you wear your body well. Do you slouch to cover up certain flaws? Could your arms do with a little firming and you find yourself complaining about them. Then work on them or shut up. You style has a lot to do with how you carry yourself. Be bold and move with boldness. Mousiness will never look great in best of clothes. Generate your energy. You could be wearing sweat pants and give an air of confidence where you are wearing them they are not wearing you hiding something about yourself. When you go out to shop make sure you shop for what you really like, bring a trusted friend who can share with you how the item looks. However, truth is if you are confident in your image you will find clothes that will state that as a fact.
Create a go to Group
Have a go to group. A go to group is a group of friends that you respect and trust, that when you hit a wall or experience anything that derails you. These woman are a bigger stand for your life than you are and they will support you to get back on the tracks of life. They will remind you whether gently or they will shake up if you need a good shake up. If you cannot afford a coach, a go to group is perfect. These woman must not coach you or tell you what to do, what they will do is remind of who you are and the commitment and goal that you have or are creating for your life. They will provide you with a pep talk or a reality check.
Do something silly that makes you laugh until you tummy hurts
Go and see a really stupid move, there are a ton of them out there. When you go to this movie, you should laugh naturally, when I mean naturally I mean at your own level and length of time. Be you, do not go to the movie and do what everyone does, the movie laugh track, when everyone starts are the same time and finishes at the same time. So unnatural. That is censoring a natural emotion. Laugh until you are completely done. I went to the movies, with this guy once it was a date. We went to see Fat Albert http://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=fat+albert+movie&view=detail&mid=B326DD89B259A34501CFB326DD89B259A34501CF&first=0&FORM=NVPFVR&qpvt=fat+albert+movie The movie was everything and corney. It made me laugh so much that even after people stopped laughing I was still laughing. It was great to just laugh. However, the guys said “Note to self never take you to see a movie again” as me if I cared. I think that laughing in a movie is a compliment to all the hard work it took to bring it to the movie, I had a great time and was completely expressed and free. Laughing is good for you . Laugh often and laugh loud its contagious. Make jokes, engage your peeps, share jokes and laugh at lot. It makes you feel better and is good for your health. Every time you laugh a comedian get his chops. Lol.
Be emotionally okay
Be ok with your emotions, you have to emotions so that you can express them. Unexpressed emotions can cause a lot of emotional pain. If you sad, express it. However, express it a way that allows you to complete the cycle. Do go digging for sadness, don’t go dregging up old relationships and add them to your new ones. If you need a good cry, cry and complete it. Do not blame other people for your sadness your need to cry or for your crying. If you stressed out, look at what is causing the stress and create new actions to take to relieve the stress. Stress in a big killer and I am sure you don’t want to die or suffer some stress induced illness. Do not cover your emotions express them. She them responsible. Release all the emotions, frustrations, and the anger in a responsible way. You will feel so much better with the release and so clear actions to take. (Here’s an action step call me and ask me how to clean your stress and get your in action).
Write things down
Conversation and thoughts disappear, so write them down. Get yourself a little book and save your brain cells, ever get those times when you get a great idea, or your hear something. Or someone gives you the name of something and you think you can remember it. Well you cannot. If you have a full life, it is rare that you will remember the thing. Also, when you can whip out your little book of remembering you actually are telling the other person that what they are saying is valuable enough to write it down. Don’t waste time trying to remember stuff write it down.
Accept yourself as you are and as you’re not.
Make an agreement with yourself to appreciate, validate, accept and love yourself every moment of every moment. Don’t think about things that you have not achieve yet. Love yourself and accept yourself without reservation. You are very different and unique from every one else. You are one of a kind and quite beautiful. Accept your uniqueness your path is different from everyone eles. Start loving yourself by stopping the comparisons of yourself to others. Loving yourself means stepping outside of guilt. Detach yourself from the reactions of others. Assert yourself with a some compassion. Show people who you are. When you show people who you are they get a chance to share themselves with you. When you judge yourself you stand in the way of your self-love. Every time you judge yourself you separate your-self from others. Stop separating and accept yourself now. You do not have to change anything about yourself.
Live Life Your Way,
Noreen Sumpter