Week Three of Calling in the One Unapologetically: Releasing people, places, things, experiences, regrets

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It is ok to allow yourself to be human by allowing yourself to mess up, dress down, fall short, bomb out.  It is okay to do what you want with you yourself, your life, body and dreams.  Understand that there a chance that you will not please everyone all the time not even yourself.  There will be times when you will disappoint people and with that they will be people close to you such as your parents, friends and relatives and again even yourself.  It is important to know that life is always changing and transforming.  You are transforming in ways that you will or will not see.  There are things that we’ll experience, for instance, we’ll be economically, emotionally, educationally and physically challenged.  I was recently, economically challenged after not experiencing any challenges in years.  In addition, I have also, been physically challenged with Diabetes and weight gain.  I have been overweight for years.  I triumphed over both these physical challenges and will continue to overcome them for the rest of my life.  Hence, lifestyle changes. I never once thought that being economically challenged, would be an opportunity to grow.  It is, I am still learning and exploring. There is an ebb and flow up and down experience to money.  It is not static experience, even though it is not something, that is tangible it is a mindset conversation that I am learning the fundamental shifting.  I never once thought that I would ever say that being economically challenged is interesting and that I could learn about and transform.   Also our dreams can take a turn and become difficult to manifest. It is also a learning experience.  We have choices and we can choose to be successful or unsuccessful we will be successful or unsuccessful positive and negative of our overall success. Within the realm of success there are times when success does not feel the way we think it should be.  It is an individual discovery.

Last week was week 3 of Calling in the One Unapologetically. It was The Release, we released ways, behavior, thoughts etc. that no longer worked for us like blame, shame etc., and we embraced forgiveness, power new behaviors and experiences. We created an environment fit for the intention of   release to happen.  We released through a water ceremony and used candles. We supported each other in ways that we needed.  So that we could choose newly and live life and see vast array of gifts the universe has to offer.  I’m was and remain excited about life and its constant changes.  I released many experiences that no longer fit in my life or that I no longer have space for.  Below are a few things I removed from my life.

I released: worthlessness: Worthlessness came from my Jamaican father who called me (Watless) worthless because I did not do wash dishes or chores, I sucked my thumb and played with my hair, or that my room was always messy. The haunting of worthless gave me no peace even into adulthood and rears it head from time to time when things in my life are not working or going as well as I’d like them to.  I have had to always prove my worthiness even though my father has been dead well over 20 plus years. His words still rang and something ring in my ear when or if I did not meet a certain standard.  It provided me no freedom.  So I am ever vigilant of the noise.

Some the things I released and embraced were as followed:

I embraced:  That I am worthy, I have purpose and I bring light.

I release: Shame and being shamed

I embrace:  There is nothing about me to be ashamed of.  I have an opportunity to pass through whatever shame I have made up to experience the other side of what I desire and see the miracle I am.

I release: myself from negative conversations about money and results.

I embrace: Positive and negative energy around money as an opportunity to see what I am dealing with and as a result to use them as a tool.  I honor myself and my energy to constantly create from nothing everything I desire and to know that results are always changing.

I release stories that are made up about me and that are not mine

I embrace: Accepting that people will make up stories about me and that the only story that matters are the ones that I make up about myself.  I have choice

I release: All thoughts, feelings, ideas, and actions and ways of being that I have not yet released and don’t know I am to release

I embrace: Courage to release things that are not for my higher good, people, places and things.

 

I am also letting go of some of the kind of friendships that no longer serve or inspired or where I am not being inspiring.  However, letting go does not mean ending.  It just means releasing them in a way where I have space to recreate what I truly desire.  We cannot hoard relationships like objects, waiting for them to shift.  The shift must happen with you.  We cannot expect anything from them we have to have the freedom to create and love freely.  We all have needs and expectations that are different they arrive at different times when you are able to learn, and experience our needs.

Live Life Your Way,

Noreen Sumpter

 

 

Remembrance

The day the planes hit the towers was a day I will never forget.

I was in a BNI meeting in the Grand Central area, when one of the members came into the meeting laughing and saying that the World Trade Center has been hit by a plane.  Now, I did not think that was funny even if it had been his idea of a sick joke.  As I looked at him in disgust and horror I said “That’s not fucking funny”.  Cut my eye (dirty look) and continued in the meeting. I had no idea whether a plane had hit the WTC was true or not until I went outside and saw a television in I think a bank and there it was as plain as the nose on my face the tower on fire.  A plane crashing into the World Trade Center.  My thought instantly was about my friends who worked at the Landmark Center in the World Trade Center.  Were they ok? OMG, I was supposed to be there at 10:00am for my Introduction Leaders Assisting Agreement.  Surely, this was not real, I thought to myself.  It couldn’t be.  My mind was in a tizzy trying to connect the dots and have this all make sense.

My first thought was there was no way I was going to go back down town.  Let alone go across any bridge.  I saw people on various televisions that I passed walking across the bridge covered in dust and papers and ashes strewn in the air.  I was not going to walk across that bridge.  My thought was God only knows what could be waiting on the bridge and then the next thing was all the ash, God only knows what’s in it.  I really don’t need that on my body.  I decided to go as far uptown as possible.  Whatever they were bombing, I doubted they would go uptown.  That was my thought.  I started walking, I had a plan that morning.  I would go to my Bloomingdales to return a suit that I had bought because I had gotten the same suit at Century for 50% off the original cost.  So I decided then even if it was the end of NY, I would return the suit as it gave me something to do, until I tried to work out what to do.  So I walked to Bloomingdales.  Please don’t ask me how I got there.  All I know is I did, I got there in a daze.  I could not stop crying.  While in Bloomingdales, I got into squabbles with foreigners who were talking smack about America.  I was upset as this was not the time for squabbling.  I walked around Bloomingdales like a zombie.  Crying and sitting and crying some more.  It was time to get out of Bloomingdales and make another plan.

My cellphone was not working.  I could not reach anyone and no one could reach me.  Thank God for payphones, what few there were and every now and then I would get a signal. I met a women who was hysterical crying in the Chicken shop.  “You still have to eat in a crisis.”  She was crying because she said she looked Arab and was afraid that she would be attacked.  I hugged her and told her she would be fine.  She was actually West Indian, Trinidadian she was fine.  We ate chicken and cried a little because that was all I could do as I had no idea what to do.

As I was sitting in the Chicken place eating my chicken and crying.  I had a thought.  Where the hell was Will Smith?  How come he did not swoop in and save the day?  My brain couldn’t comprehend what was happening.  I did not have a real past experience of what was happening.  My brain needed to make meaning out of this situation.  Will Smith was my reality.  Independence Day was what was happening in NY and Will would save me and save us all.  Not like a leading lady or any of that stuff, just he would make it better.  Make this planes, fire and the bombs go away by killing whatever Alien has done this.  That was my reality or the unreality of this.

Finally, I was able to reach my ILP coach Laurie who suggested we should all meet at Tim’s house on Park Avenue.  Ok, I walked to Tim’s house his beautiful large studio that was immaculate with his huge bed.  I was emotionally spent that day.  I walked into Tim’s house and plopped on his bed and went to sleep.  I wake up to them saying lets go to church. I got myself together and we went to a Catholic church.  On the way out of the church walking near Bryant Park.  It was late into the night now and I really wanted to go home.  I happened to meet some people who I recognized from my neighborhood.  It amazing that a crisis brings us close together were we are no longer strangers.  I called to them.  They recognized me just as much as I did them. However, this was different kind of day. Today, we just didn’t nod and go on we connected, were interested in each other’s welfare.  I then said goodbye to my people my coach and Tim, they checked if I would be okay with these people.  I got on the C train or one of those trains and rode home.  The funny thing though, I felt like an alien on the train.  I sat next to a women who I started talking to, she looked me dead in the face and did not respond.  I swear, I felt as though I had died and gone to zombie land because everyone on the train was disconnected.  My train took me home fast and without issue.  I came home where I connected with my neighbors.  Only to discover that a few neighbors worked in the center or close by.  One was late for work that day so the fire turned around and went home, another was at work in a building close by and had witness people jumping to their deaths and bodies exploding on the sidewalk.  She was devastated.  For her, I left my door open and my apartment became a respite for her to express and talk so she could be supported or just to cry and lastly, neighbor upstairs was killed when the building fell down.  It was said, hearsay that she was in the basement when the towers came down trying to get people out.  That was the kind of person she was, providing support the best way she could from me with my bike to people in a bombed building.

I try not to think about 9/11 as a terrible day as I know it was.  I think of the upside if I can call it that.  I think of a city of people who banded together.  To hug, give hope, and continue to make our city great.  I Love New York.  For the people that perished in the World Trade Center.  You are gone and you will never be forgotten.

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Life is Beautiful. Life is What You Say It Is.

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Faith is taking the first step, even when you don’t see the whole staircase.

–Martin Luther King Jr.

These women took a leap of faith into Calling in the One Unapologetically. They made the commitment to open their hearts, unlock the ability to give and receive powerful love. Here’s what they had to say.
 

“Noreen’s coaching of CITOU, came at a time that I was going through some life transitions and it made a remarkable difference in the way I began to live my life. In each session we explored who we were and what we really want and need in our life. CITOU works in mysterious ways that I would consider very sacred and safe as you start to see life and what we experience in new empowering ways. It shifts our usual thinking and reacting to open up something more. It is about getting who you are and letting go of things that stop us. The way the group was structured contributed to the richness of the course by allowing everyone’s experiences to be heard and understood. Noreen’s style is fun and funny, she is cheeky, chic and coaches us to be and life our best life. Call it in!” -S. Shah, NY

 

“I loved participating in CITOU. For me, this workshop was an opportunity for me to clear away my past regrets and let go. I literally had phone conversations and email dialogues with past romantic interests where I happily admitted to and subsequently released my months (or in one case, years) of negativity, bad feelings, and/or withheld communication. This is was something that I would never had done before.  CITOU provided me the freedom to honor my thoughts and feelings about my past and thus allowed me to leave them in the past. The only way that I was able to communicate with each person in such a transparent way was because I had released the shame and embarrassment that I had around my romantic attractions gone awry. This workshop cleared away the pains of my romantic past. I am ready and excited to create new, sexy, intimate romantic love in my life!” -Jackie, Brooklyn, NY

 

“Noreen is a super-dynamic and caring leader! Through, she will lead you through many various and delightful stages of growth and discovery in CITOU! CITOU will rock your world!!!” -H. Sells, NY

 

“The Calling in the One Unapologetically course has been both eye opening and fulfilling. With a history of dead end and often heartbreaking relationships, I was at a point where I was giving up. Then, I met Noreen. Her work as facilitator of our group has brought us together to work hard and look at where we’ve been inauthentic about ourselves and our actions in having a solid, loving relationship come into our lives. I’ve gotten so much compassion and support from her. My awareness of how much I settle and how little value I give myself when it comes to love is both confronting and cathartic. I now have a new outlook for my future and am gaining a new understanding for what I really want AND what I don’t want… am committed to continuing to build myself up and love myself so that I have that overflow to give to another. I am experiencing a shift into seeing that what I want is possible and that I can truly have real, unconditional love in my life. Thank you so much for this course.” -Rachel, NY

Honor Yourself So You Can Honor Others

If someone asks you for a favor, be clear that you want to do this favor. When you’re doing things you don’t want to do, this only creates resentment towards the other person and yourself.  Many of people do favors they don’t want to do, but when you live like that you go against your feelings.  When you choose to be honest with yourself by honoring yourself, expect that some people will not like it, or you.  People might say you’re selfish.  No one wants to be called selfish, everyone wants to look good and not suffer losing face, so you feel obligated in some way or another.

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It is important to make your life, thoughts, goals and time important.  It is important to commit to yourself.  If you do favors you don’t want to do, you will can be lost in the world of other people’s desires, and expectations which will only lead to bitterness and upset. Which cause uncertainty of where you will be and feel uncertain about your own choices. I think it is critical to be clear about what you will and will not do and who you are.  You can make your life a priority by being responsible where you acknowledge your thoughts and feeling which lets you be free to make choices and take actions, thereby providing you with a strong sense of who you are and allows you to be happy with the choices you make for yourself and your life.

If you do not honor yourself, you will not be able to honor others. You will know when it is important for you to be selfless and when to flow with things.

No, you cannot hang out at my apartment at 8:00am.  That might seem harsh to some people, but be honest with what one will and will not do. It helps one feel better about oneself.  It is not one’s intention to hurt another’s feelings and does not want to hurt one’s own feelings by saying yes when no is what is really meant.

Being honest with my desires provides me the respect for your desires, as it frees me from resentment of myself.  I have trained myself for a long time to be honest with myself.  Sometimes, it does not feel good to refuse a friend or a loved one.  However, when you respect your own choices, feeling good or bad has nothing to do with it.  You are just honoring your higher self and you learn that you are not responsible for everyone’s happiness, and you know that you cannot choose another’s happiness.

Live Life Your Way,

Noreen Sumpter

www.callinginthe1unapologetically.com

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Special: One-Hour “Get Acquainted” Life Coaching Call

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For those of you who have been wanting to experience my services, I now have a campaign on LivingSocial.

It is an opportunity to get some valuable coaching at an affordable, rock-bottom price. The price is the only thing that is different – the coaching you will receive is still about focus, clarity and alignment in the areas that are most important to you.

Check out the deal here, share it with a friend and let’s talk!

Live Life Your Way,

Noreen Sumpter Life Coach

 

Love is Everywhere. It is Never Far.

Calling in the One Unapologetically completed July 2nd 2015.  

What joy, happiness and wonder.

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What We Experienced

Lovers, men and partnerships created.  

Health restored and taken on, 

Businesses launched, 

Giving, receiving and expanding in good portion, 

Jobs and joys fulfilled  

Money was understood and dreams came true

 

Who I am Now

Stretched

I am stronger

Compassionate and passionate

Vulnerable  

Full of self-expression

Fear and fearlessness taken on

  

CITOU has been infused with love of who we are fully at our core.  Love is everywhere. It is never far.

 

Calling in the One was amazing. We are doing it again in September. Don’t miss it.

 

I am, we are, powerful and strong. We are women.

Live Life Your Way,

Noreen Sumpter

The Release: Move Life Forward and Create Power, Freedom & Self-Expression

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The Release is very powerful.  People who have done The Release walked away free from (shit). Shit that has been lingering in their lives for an inordinate amount of time.

Look, there is no point in me mincing words. Celebrate your humanity. We are human, after all. We have a lot of shit in our lives that is worrisome to us.

“I have shit that I am still discovering life after 15 years of transformational work. Am I the same person I was 15 years ago no. Do I still have shit? Yes. Will I be unloading shit and creating new shit in life yes and yes”.

Join us for The Releasing of: Old hurts, dead and lifeless relationships, Toxic relationships, Toxic Ties, old agreements, wounds, old barriers, upsets, disappointment, shame, sexual, body, financial. Guilt, not good enough, fear, inferiority, indecisiveness, procrastination, promises, old pattern, unhealthy behaviors, broken agreements with self and others, habits that no longer work, loss.

These are all conversations that one might be hoarding about self that no longer, or have never, empowered or moved your life forward.

Truth, if you are human you have things you want to release. Let’s not belabor this conversation. If you would like to attend, or considering attending, contact:

WWW.NoreenSumpterCoach.com

917 945 5907

The Herbshoppe

394 Atlantic Ave, Brooklyn, NY 11217

(718) 422-7981

Let’s move life forward and create power freedom and full self-expression. So you can live your life being happy, fulfilled and having made a difference in the world.

Live Life Your Way,

Noreen Sumpter

A Special Invitation

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Calling In The One Unapologetically is about to complete.  Ladies, I am extending to you an opportunity to share with us in completing this wonderful experience.

I look forward to seeing you with excitement, expectancy and enthusiasm!

Live Life Your Way,

Noreen Sumpter

Strengthen What Remains

I met Toni Hatton at a conference a few years ago.  We had always “threatened” to do something together and had not up until now. 

I will be participating in her “Strengthen What Remains” Speaker’s Summit on Monday, June 29th.

Who Toni is for me is a dynamic lady who cares about people having what they desire in life.  She is about manifestation.  Toni is a woman who enjoys creating partnerships with everyone she meets.  She loves to share and she is shiny.  The beauty is that she does it  about being an Attractive Thinker. Hence her company is the http://www.theattractivethinker.guru/

It’s not that we cannot have what we desire.  It is that we have a difficult time holding onto our dreams. We get caught up in the time it takes to manifest them.  We get caught up in having them exactly the way we create them and it provides with no room for magic to happen. Everyone has confidence where they are strong. However, there are areas where we are not and in this talk you will discover there is power in pain, nothing in your life is wasted. 

Together, we will break down limiting beliefs, have straight communications, be transparent and most of all we will have fun.  I am offering a free 15-minute consultation to you. You will come away excited to have a conversation that will be the beginning of a life transformation.

Live Life Your Way,

Noreen Sumpter

What Do I Stand For?

I stand for love.

I stand for myself and my understanding.

I stand for risk and learning.

I stand for not being afraid to fuck up.

Friends may leave and not forgive the fuck up.

It’s God/Universes way of paring down the baggage

And letting me know they have the right to change their minds.

That’s deep learning.

I stand for fearlessness. Feel the fear and do it anyway.

Own the fear, its ugly. Really ugly.

I stand for truth because it always prevails.

I stand for making my life and making my life right.

Sometimes life and the choices I make are right. However, they just don’t work.

I stand for feeling my feelings no matter how much it seems they hurt.

I stand for Victory. Doing what’s right even though I want to throw my hands in the air and say fuck it all.

At the end of it and inside of all of these experiences, I can look myself in the mirror and say, I fucking love you Noreen. You are indeed powerful and you are love.

I can feel good about myself and remain in alignment with the world and all its people no matter what is said.  I can walk the streets of my hood naked and feel the feeling but good with myself. I can express my scars and wounds with pride. I can carry my head high. I’ll smile when I see you. I’ll feel good about myself. I’ll know my worth, my love. I am safe in the world, I’m confident that love is present, I’ll have no regrets, I took the risk. I remain courageous in the unknown. I’ll be giddy with joy, that I’m truly free. Scoop myself up in my arms and say in a loud voice:

“Bring on the next adventure.”

Live Life Your Way,

Noreen Sumpter

Fit Mind, Fit Body: Personal Life Coaching While Walking!

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Starting June 1, 2015

HAVE YOU BEEN WANTING TO WORK OUT IN THE MORNING AND YOU JUST CAN’T SEEM GET OUT OF BED? DO YOU WAKE UP AND RENEGOTIATE YOUR PROMISE TO EXERCISE, TURN OVER IN BED AND SAY @#$@ IT, OR DO ONE OF THE FOLLOWING THINGS:

  • GET UP AND GO WORKOUT
  • PULL THE BLANKET OVER YOUR HEAD, SNUGGLE DOWN AND GO BACK TO SLEEP
  • SAY, OH, I’LL DO IT TOMORROW – BUT TOMORROW NEVER COMES
  • SAY, I’LL DO IT SOON, AND SOON NEVER COMES BECAUSE YOU DON’T HAVE A PLAN
  • SAY, I CAN’T BE BOTHERED, I HAVE TOO MUCH TO DO, AND I’M TIRED.
  • IT’S TOO COLD, TOO HOT OUTSIDE
  • GOSH, I SAY THIS EVERYMORNING, DO YOU FIND YOU’RE REPEATING THESE THOUGHTS EVERY DAY?

YOU GO BACK TO SLEEP AND ANOTHER DAY PASSES. 

Noreen Sumpter is a Personal Life Coach and resident of Clinton Hill before it was Trendy and FABULOUS.

Noreen was born and bred in South (Saff) East London, England. A Certified Life Coach with over 10 years’ experience, she is passionate, bright, funny and full of energy.  Noreen has spent a large part of her life in Clinton Hill.

I used to be that person, I used promise myself to get out of bed and exercise. Sometimes, I did.  However, it was more like wishing to exercise.  Wishing to get up.  I would often play mind games and try to work out in bed.  Not. I would promise to go out. I’d make every excuse known to man to find a way out. I even created workout buddies and pray they would punk out and they did.

Last year, I was diagnosed with Diabetes and I swung into action, within 6 months my glucose went from 10.5 to 6.4 and lost 40lbs of body fat thus reversing my Diabetes. Sexy, sexy…  Using my knowledge and gifts as a Personal Life Coach, I am here to support others to take action, create a purpose to get in shape by getting out of bed and help you redesign your body using your thoughts and taking actions to have your body be the tool it was designed for.  No more excuses. I will provide you with knowledge to take deliberate actions to live life your way fulfilling your dreams, and desires and rekindling an amazing relationship with your mind and body.

Join me on 3 weekly 45-60 minute walks, where you will move your energy and receive Personal coaching that will empower you to love you and the body you’re in using the Law of Attraction and other transformational tools to create positive results in your life

For more information, Contact 917 945 5907 or noreen@noreensumptercoach.com
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Project “90 Days to the Nanee”

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Hey Ladies, I want to share something with you.

So, I had not been dating for over a year. Truth is I don’t want to date. I desire to be in a committed relationship that will lead to marriage.   I have had this conversation brewing that I needed to have men ask me out because I was sick of asking men out that I was attracted too. Instead of celebrating this freedom, I saw where I was making it wrong.

However, I had a conversation about it and came to the conclusion that I have been leading this course for over a year now, and I was not dating. Out of integrity for me. The truth is that I desired to meet a man that I was attracted to and that there was a spiritual component to it. After all, I’m a leader. Exasperated, I declared that I was going to go back to my old way of being. Within a day, I got a swipe from a guy on Okcupid and I put away my concerns and stories and had a date that Sunday. On this date, I discovered all the things I was avoiding and not accepting. The Okcupid guy was short, I did not want to be like my parents. My mother was tall 5.9 and my father was 5.6; to me, as a child they looked odd and I said that “I was never going to marry a man shorter than me” said by a child of about 7, that child was me. I had a story that I did not want to be dominated and that a small man would dominate me and tell me what to do like my father. The Okcupid date was a breakthrough for me. It was a great opportunity to see something, do something different and grow. That guy is no longer in my space, and I shared with him, how I felt and I could honestly, complete my interaction with and start from a place that is just friendship.

Last week, I discovered that I had a prototype of the men that I dated. Even though the men that were the loves of my life were complete opposites from my prototype. So come Wednesday, I’m going about my business in the city and enter a shop and there in the shop was my prototype. I immediately start with the eyes and the vagina and as luck would have it I had an opportunity to see to see myself in action. I got to be present and see my eyes and my vagina in action. Where was I, I was in an exclusive designer store and my prototype was an executive sales associate he comes around as I was speaking with a female sales person about a dress on the mannequin.   Immediately, I start flirting. To be honest, I have no real idea about what I was saying. I just know that I was grinning from ear to ear and my eyes were batting everywhere around this guy’s face. I noticed his smile, his lips omg he was attractive. I ask about the women section, it was upstairs. The female assistance apologies in advance about the slow elevator. I say not to worry, I will all the more look forward with enthusiasm, excitement and expectancy when I arrive at the 2nd floor destination, also known as the principles we start each Calling in “The One” Unapologetically session with.   Anyway, I ride the elevator and finally get to the 2nd floor which I could have walked up to but, I choose to ride. When the door opened I was greeted with the most beautiful dashing smile and it was the guy that I was flirting with on the main floor. I asked him if he ran up the stairs or did he have a twin brother. He said he was the twin and I had to choose. I laughed and continued to flirt. Fast forward we trade numbers, I take pictures of him giggled and flirted.

After having a joke about it with a friend. The following Wednesday after discovering more things about myself regarding my man prototype, I met a guy who is exactly my prototype down to the accent. French Colonial. To be specific Haitian. Laughing at a friend who said she would not allow a man to touch her taking a page out of Steve Harvey’s book. I thought about it and took it on. I have always had sex whenever I felt like it. I have never gone a month without having sex with a man. I enjoy sex and like getting it on. It never proved if a man liked me more or less, if he respected me more or less. However, I wanted to have an experience of myself not having sex with a man for 90 days. Not just any man, a man that I found attractive and sexy. So I declared that I was going refrain from having sex for with any man I was attracted or meet for 90 days so “Project 90 days to the Nanee” was born. I thought that this would be a struggle and I would not be able to make the request or get my request honored and I would do and be the same as I have always been about sex.

However, the truth is I wanted to be how I wanted to be which was not to talk about it but insert my demand that the guy gives me what I want and he’d be okay with it. This current choice was for myself. I wanted to see and experience myself clearly and completely without sex being connected with a man. That we would choose a time that we both agreed to have sex, we would be clear and adult about. This experience is important and it is for my self and the man can choose yes or no I would be fine with his choice. I would still continue on with my experience.

I desire this because I want to get to know the guy without sex in the game, without objectifying him. I know I want to have sex with him. Seriously my body is burning and I am having sensations that I have only had an experience of for a moment. I told him what I was doing and he agreed to play the game with me. Consequently, we have slept in bed now since we have met, 3 nights out of 12. It has been great. We have had no sexual interplay. We have both had sensations played, laughed, eat, talk and gone out together. No sexual interplay. I am actually enjoying being sexually expressed in my non-sexual self with this man. In fact, I would be enjoying myself with any man in this situation. It’s not like I could not or have never asked for anything. It is that I got what I wanted in my relationships by being demanding and with an attitude that didn’t serve me or the relationship. The experience was not generative and expression. Which did not allow for freedom and choice. What I discovered is that the kind of sex I was having was taking away from being present and I did not experience an opportunity to being present thus rendering me open.

Live Life Your Way,

Noreen Sumpter

CALLING IN THE ONE UNAPOLOGETICALLY

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An amazing piece of work, lively, revealing, challenging, provoking. Not for the faint of heart. Clear out the old, make room for a new and appropriate relationship. Leave old lovers in the past.  Expand your capacity to give and receive love courageous. Register now!